Let sleeping dogs lie 

There maybe times in the course of your relationship/marriage when you may be required to let the little things go. It is impossible to live with your spouse in the same house and possibly in the same room without getting on each other’s nerves . Tolerance is a valuable virtue which will help you learn how to let the sleeping dog lie. This means learning to avoid interfering in a situation that is currently not causing any problems but might do so as a result of such interference. To avoid this scenario, you have to learn to let the sleeping dogs lie. 

It is definitely not every action in a relationship that requires a reaction, sometimes you have to learn to ignore the insignificant things and even some significant ones too. This is not cowardice and you are not being stifled or silenced, it is the wise thing do. It takes a lot of maturity and strong will to side step potentially destructive land mines in your relationship. Considering that things are not always what they seem, ensure that you have the facts correctly before you accuse you spouse, you may encounter a nasty resistance especially if they are not guilty of the offence. If the facts are sketchy, it is advisable to let the sleeping dogs lie.

Evaluate what you tend to achieve by raising an issue, sometimes the apology you crave or the point you want to make may not be worth starting the civil war that may erupt in your home if you do not ignore and move on. Discussing some topics may be counter productive as the desired result may turn out to be the opposite of what you intended to achieve. Raising and making an issue of that misdemeanour may not necessarily resolve or correct it, and doing it too often will make you appear to be nagging. This may make your spouse averse to discussing more important problems in the future. It is advised that you save the big reactions, the elaborate drama for the big issues which will definitely come up once in a while. So if it’s not that important, it is best to let the sleeping dogs lie.

One of the most difficult things to do is to look the other way especially if you are convinced that your spouse has committed an offence. It takes tolerance and a mature disposition to evaluate what discussing or complaining about minor or major problems will accomplish, it takes extra ordinary will power not to confront a spouse for the sake of peace especially when all the facts point to their guilt. It takes strength, wisdom and God’s grace to let sleeping dogs lie. – Sir Stanley Ekezie 

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3 comments

  1. This is so true. I like to say ( I think I learnt it from my husband ) that people must pick their battles, for you can win the battle, but lose the war.

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  2. If you’re in it for the long haul with someone, you might as well … do not, under any circumstances, let that little crush fester. Open up and talk to your partner … Divorce can trigger all sorts of unsettling, uncomfortable and … Limit your contact with your spouse. … Keeping a journal of your thoughts and feelings as you go … Do you get me right my boss?
    You are obviously such an alibi bro 🙂 🙂
    I came across most of your post here and it inspired me to extend that I vividly remember most of your though and it help me up in following up my girlfriend which I have known for 7 years now.

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  3. Well written post. I agree with letting sleeping dogs lie, especially as I always think it going to go away. However what is it is not going away and now affecting your ability to sleep too. How do you know when to wake the dog

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