For a relationship to flourish, your head and your heart must be in sync, your head must confirm what your heart feels, and what your heart feels must seem right in your head. Sometimes the heart goes first and has to wait for the head to catch up or vice versa. At some point they must agree, If this doesn’t happen you have not found the raw

This is the golden rule of successful relationships, however there are exceptions. It may seem right in your head and heart, but your partner may not feel the same way. You just have to be attentive to the signals they consciously or unconsciously send. If you heart hesitates after a considerable period of time or if your head refuses to follow your heart, they may be reading the negative signals.

Sometimes, we tend to ignore these signals and focus on other things. Some of the things that may distract us include money or other material considerations, carnal pleasures and a good sense of humour. A charming personality may also distracts us from the real intentions or position of a person with whom we intend to settle.

The good news is that we can work on getting our heads and hearts to sync into rhythm. Once there is a mutual willingness and agreement to be together, the required synergy can be achieved. All it takes is sacrifice, compromise and tolerance. You must sacrifice your ego and pride to compromise on the rigidity of your position while tolerating your partners flaws.

No relationship is readily perfect or made in heaven, the seemingly perfect ones you see and admire, have had a lot of work put into them. They have gone through their periods of trials, but by sheer perseverance and hard work, they have become enviably strong and admirable. You too can achieve that if you are prepared to sincerely put in the hard work – Sir Stanley Ekezie