It is very unfortunate that in this day and age families still rise up against a woman whose husband has just passed away. Rather than help the woman plan her children’s future with the money and properly her husband left, some fathers and brothers inlaw resort to grabbing and sharing whatever their brother left, totally ignoring the fact that he has children for whom he struggled to acquire the properties. Sisters who should understand the pain of a fellow woman also join in this shameful and very disgraceful act. Even when there is a will, these wicked families will adopt different strategies including false accusations, intimidation, force and diabolical means to scare away a widow from her right. 

I have heard horror stories of how some of these widows are treated. How she immediately becomes the enemy of the family as her husband’s cars and property are carted away by his shameless family. How lazy, callous and insensitive can these people be, rather than work hard and acquire their own properties, they wait for someone to die so they can become rich. Who are these men married to? Women? I find it extremely difficult to believe that a man will overpower a woman, a widow, steal her property bring it home and his wife will congratulate him and enjoy these ill gotten acquisition with him, being a woman who will one day be a widow, shouldn’t she be sympathetic to the travails of a fellow woman and disassociate herself from such ill gotten wealth. Whatever you forcefully take from a widow is cursed, do not condemn your own children by using it to train and feed them, trust me, it doesn’t end well. 

My happiness in matters like this is that Karma usually steps in within a short while. No one maltreats a widow and goes free, ask those who have tried it, if they are sincere they will tell you how they paid in full for every drop of tear shed by the widow they maltreated or took advantage of. It is extremely sad that some of these people who engage in these acts are actually Christians who should be witnesses to God’s anger against those who go against him, but because they have been blinded by lust, greed and avarice they totally ignore the scripture as stated in Deuteronomy 27:19 “Cursed be anyone who perverts the justice due to the sojourner, the fatherless, and the widow. And all the people shall say, ‘Amen.’” And in Psalm 146:9 “The Lord watches over the sojourners; he upholds the widow and the fatherless, but the way of the wicked he brings to ruin.” When you rob a widow of her right in this way you have attacked the widow and her fatherless children and the full brunt of God’s Law and condemnation will be yours to bear. 

If you are a widow, do not let them intimidate you, being a widow means you have been adopted by God, their antics, threats and evil plans against you shall be returned to them a thousand fold. God fights on the side of the widow and fatherless, do not give them even a pin no matter the threat. Psalm 68:5 “Father of the fatherless and protector of widows is God in his holy habitation”, this scripture is your blessed assurance that he will fight with you. Once the inevitable happens, remove all valuables before the cowards arrive. I encourage families to move in and protect their daughters whose husband has just died, send your son’s and able bodied young men to stay with her and ensure that these men do not harass and intimidate her. There are also laws which are designed to protect you, do not be afraid get legal help, go to the police, get thugs and fight for your children, 

For those of you who will go harassing her for sex in exchange for your help, protection or any other favours. You are committing the same offence. Intimidating a widow into having sex with you is the same as taking what does not belong to you by force. God loves and looks after widows, do not pitch yourself against God by forcing a widow do anything she doesn’t want to do. Exodus 22:22 ” You shall not mistreat any widow or fatherless child”. While it is true that she is free from her marriage with the death of her husband and the observance of the required mourning period, her consent must be given out of her own free will for anyone to engage in any form of relationship with her. To be forewarned is to be forearmed – Sir Stanley Ekezie 

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