Lying in bed last night pondering over the events of the previous day, I couldn’t help wondering in total confusion what the whole episode meant. A woman had been so badly brutalized by her husband, her sister in Europe called and asked me to intervene. I reached out to the man first, as expected and understandably, he refused to discuss his marriage with me, he basically told me there was no problem, so I apologised and hung up the phone. Shortly afterwards the woman called and told a chilling story of what she has had to endure in their over one decade of marriage. I observed from her utterances that she is a true born again Christian. In spite of all that had happened, she did not for once abuse or condemn her husband in foul language, she said it was her cross to bare temporarily. She wanted her marriage to work, she refused to be separated or divorced insisting that she did not want to go against God’s instructions on marriage. I encouraged her and advised her to keep praying to God for a turn around in her marriage.

The next day she called to say that her husband had suffered a massive stroke while on a business trip in Portharcourt, it happened in his hotel room, he had fallen while attempting to get out of bed and was discovered by the housekeeper. She said the doctors are battling to keep him alive, this is a healthy and strong middle aged man who had just returned from abroad where he was given a clean bill of health, how is that possible, what went wrong and why? She was devastated and heartbroken, I couldn’t help wondering what an angel she is, even after the hell she has been through, she still wished him well and continued praying fervently for his full recovery. As at today any chance of making a full recovery is very slim, the doctors feel he may be able to survive but will be a vegetable for the rest of his life. Here was a man who spent the best of 10 years brutalising his wife, he will now have to depend solely on the same woman to care for him.

As I was trying to figure it all out, a thought came to me, as Insensitive and abstract as these thoughts were, they continued to gained traction in my mind. Could it be that the man has been disabled by divine providence to save the woman’s life? Everyone, including her pastor and I had warned her that she will be killed if she remained in the house, she refused insisting that God is her protector and will not let any harm come to her. Could his sudden and total disability be God’s response to the woman’s cry for help? since all efforts secular and non secular failed to get him to stop brutalising his wife, can this be the divine intervention she so desperately prayed for. Here was a truly born again Christian crying to God everyday for a turn around in her marriage, probably praying for protection and in defiance the man continued to abuse her, there had to be some sort of repercussion. The Bible says in 1 Chronicles 16:22 ” touch not my anointed and do my prophets no harm” Is it possible that the woman indirectly without knowing invoked God’s anger against her husband? 

It is very common for women and indeed men to run to church when they start experiencing domestic problems, some of them in the process get truly born again and begin to worship God in truth and in spirit. We have to be extremely careful especially if you notice that your wife has acquired a powerful praying habit, do not let your permanent removal or disability be answers to a broken woman’s prayers. Stop, step back and fall in line before God humbles and humiliates you. God protects his own. It is possible that through prayer, She may have acquired the spiritual cover of God and has thus become an anointed servant. A man becoming incapacitated by sickness or poverty may be in response to the prayer of an innocent woman who he is maltreating, Some women becoming widows may not be coincidental. The demise of a husband may be divine intervention to save the life of a true believer. Let us live everyday according to God’s instruction in 1 Peter 3:7 “Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are equal heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered – Sir Stanley Ekezie