Be yourself, Love and Live

The greatest joy killers are seeking the validation and approvals of others and secondly, living on someone else’s terms just to please them. We are all unique and must learn to be comfortable in our own skin.

Personally, I have my own dreams and aspirations; have I achieved all of them? No. Do I have everything I ever wanted? The answer is a capital NO. However, I have learned to hold my head high and make the best out of the little that has been bestowed upon me.

I live life on my own terms, at my own pace, happy, positive and forward thinking. In my relationships with people, I strive to be fair and reasonable. Am I always fair? Of course not; after all, I am human and fallible. I may have been fair to people around me and probably unfair sometimes, for this, I always apologize, however, the version of me you decide to hold on to is completely your prerogative.

If you decide you don’t want to associate with me anymore, no worries; someone else somewhere is eager to be my friend. This is the irony of choices in life, aptly encapsulated in the phrases “one man’s meat is another man’s poison.” “When one door closes, another opens” so if you don’t find me appealing enough, tall enough, short enough, rich or poor enough, I am exactly who someone somewhere is longing to meet.

So when someone decides to walk out of your life, let them go; love grows in a vacuum. If they do not leave, someone else won’t find you. For as many times as you fail in love, open your heart and love again, not for their sake, but for yours. The greatest milestones in life have been achieved because someone failed repeatedly and refused to give up.

Do not be afraid or tired of loving again and again, For those who have never opened their hearts to the warmth of true love, have never really lived. Life is too short to carry the weight of the burden of a loveless heart, and it is only in Loving others, we truly live – Sir Stanley Ekezie