Dearth of romance

There appears to be a scarcity of romance in contemporary relationships and marriages. In my opinion, the reason is straightforward: individuals no longer let go. Gender bias, feminism, misogynistic behavior, greed, and lust are fundamental factors contributing to the demise of romance in relationships.

Social media platforms are awash with gender-based hate messages, such as “men are scum” and “women are evil.” These messages have taken root in the minds of younger and older generations alike. Consequently, we now have men and women entering relationships with severe biases against the opposite sex. Innocent gestures, actions and reactions are misinterpreted and juxtaposed with negative gender narratives, raising a new generation of couples who are defensive, offensive, overthinking, and misinterpreting every action by their spouses.

Romance requires a peaceful environment and unadulterated trust to thrive. In the absence of these, relationships become characterized by suspicion and mistrust, rendering it impossible for romance to flourish. Furthermore, women have lost their feminine appeal, which previously attracted men and instilled in them the instinct to protect, provide, and pamper. The modern woman is more educated, more outspoken and mostly financially independent.

This shift has led some women to become more assertive, prompting men to view this as a challenge to their authority. As a result, time that could be spent nurturing romance is wasted on gender warfare, with men attempting to assert their authority and women resisting and protecting their voice and independence. Men have also lost their masculinity and sense of responsibility, most men who are stuck in the old days of male superiority fight an internal ego warfare which will manifest as pettiness and laziness making them more interested in monetizing courtship as a show of strength for financial subjugation of the woman rather than putting in the work to properly court her.

The new age relationships have become monetized or sexualized. Women often prioritize financial security before committing, while men focusing mostly on sexual gratification succumb, creating a transactional dynamic where each party walks away temporarily satisfied. However, they will eventually crave emotional connection, which the circumstances of their meeting do not support. Unable to achieve this, the relationship crumbles, not because they are incompatible or dislike each other, but because the foundation of their relationship is superficial.

Romance can be reintroduced into relationships. Men and women must learn to embrace their traditional gender roles. Femininity is attractive to men, arousing their sensual senses and making women appealing. On the other hand, women crave masculine men who take charge financially and emotionally, this ignites the passion ingrained in the DNA of a woman. Even in same-sex marriages, one partner often mimics the appearance and mannerisms of the opposite sex, demonstrating the incontrovertible biological fact that opposites attract – Sir Stanley Ekezie