Objectivity lost: The Engonga Eposide reveals deep-seated biases

The Engonga saga has devolved into a gender-based conflict, with most individuals defending or condemning based on gender affiliations. This lack of objectivity stems from emotional attachments clouding logical reasoning, leading to the justification of evident wrongdoings. This has become a huge problem in trying to resolve marriage issues. In most cases emotional biases often supersede logical analysis. We frequently justify overtly bad behaviour based on gender or family affiliations.

The tendency to absolve one individual and condemn the other in cases involving two consenting adults engaging in acts of moral depravity, solely based on shared traits such as gender, religion or tribe highlights our lack of objectivity and significantly contributes to our existing societal challenges. Chief Engonga is reportedly alleged to have engaged in intimate relationships with over 400 women, including some who are married. Given this record, it is reasonable to assume that he most likely made advances toward other women who resisted. Even if it was the women who baited him, certainly not all the women around him made advances towards him. Some respected the sanctity of their relationships.

Freedom of choice is an important factor in this case. As adults, our decisions and their consequences shape who we become. In this case, consenting adults elected to engage in infidelity, and now they must face the repercussions of those choices. This scenario facilitated by mutual agreement would have been averted if one or both parties showed moral restraint. Therefore, Endonga and the women involved share equal accountability for their actions, and none can be exempt from responsibility under any circumstances. Infidelity requires the active and willing participation of a man and a woman to be perpetrated

As head of the financial crimes commission, Engonga appeared to epitomize marital stability and responsibility, with a beautiful wife and six lovely children, but he and his spouse secretly harbored a deeply troubling and immoral habit. Similarly, numerous high-society women, marked by their decent appearance and distinguished careers or marriages to powerful men, concealed their moral bankruptcy beneath an image of decency. This clearly shows that wealth, power, and social standing do not guarantee relationship happiness or fidelity.

Married couples should take heed of this valuable lesson and prioritize meeting their partners’ needs. Although character flaws may have contributed to this saga, recognizing the potential impact of unaddressed emotional trauma in the matrimonial home and/or early upbringing issues on all parties involved is crucial. Now that the wife’s sex tapes have surfaced online, it’s clear most people judged too quickly. I always sensed something was seriously wrong at home, especially when she stated she wouldn’t leave him. It obvious she knew what he was upto, such level of infidelity is impossible to hide.

I am aware that cheating occurs, but his actions were deliberately calculated and extreme, indicating something more sinister. The circumstances surrounding the video release are also questionable, having been seized during a police operation and promptly released, suggesting that the situation is more complicated than has been reported. Additionally, it is crucial to recognize that appearances can be misleading, and individuals may project false impressions; therefore, whether already in or contemplating marriage, caution and discernment are essential – Sir Stanley Ekezie