St. Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day will come and go but the blues and bliss of the day will linger for many months to come. A lot of people, young and old will troop out in their numbers to mark the day; restaurants, movies theaters, hotels, parks will all be filled to capacity. Euphoric celebrations, wild expectations, melancholic regrets and self reflection will be rife on the day.

The stark reality of the aftermath of lovers’ day will suddenly dawn on some people after the day. Many will spend money they ordinarily cannot afford just to show off or deceive others, relationships which are clearly doomed to fail from the onset will be started out of desperation to be with someone tomorrow. Set boundaries will be demolished and caution thrown to the wind, people will succumb to the pressure of doing things they will ordinarily not consider doing. Do not succumb to the inevitable emotional blackmail or peer pressure tomorrow, it is ok not to have a Valentine, there are many more St Valentine’s Days to come, so be patient and celebrate with the right person when the time comes.

Be careful and don’t be fooled by a gift of flowers, chocolate and other items, look before you leap. Fake relationships will also be consummated under the guise of Valentine’s Day, be careful, it mustn’t be on St Valentine’s Day, if they truly love you, they will wait. A lot of good relationships will end tomorrow because one of the partners either has no money to buy presents or take their partner out to posh and exotic restaurants or will be unavoidably absent due to work or other more important engagements, most people will be accurately or falsely accused of being with someone else. People committed to more than one partner will also be exposed, it will indeed be a day of laughter and tears.

The activities on lovers day or lack of it should not and cannot be a yardstick to measure love, it takes more than the display of love and affection on Valentine’s Day to assess a relationship, focus on your partners antecedents over a long period of time to have fair assessment of how they feel about you. It is also important to note that being the one present on St Valentine’s Day does not automatically bestow upon you the status of numero uno in his or her life. Some people are very deceitful and experts in eating their cakes and still have it, don’t be deceived.

A consistent show of love and affection over a considerable period of time is required to comfortably conclude that a person loves and cares for you. So before you make that big decision based on what will happen tomorrow, give it a little while longer. Don’t make the mistake of trying to convert a temporary relationship of convenience into a permanent one, or end a good long term relationship because of the activities of just one day. For true lovers, everyday should be celebrated like St Valentine’s Day, Happy St Valentines Day to all true lovers – Sir Stanley Ekezie