Money and power, curse or blessing 

She wrote:   I have been married to my husband for 21 years, we struggled and built a comfortable life together, we were happy in America raising our 4 wonderful children. Suddenly he decided he wanted to come to Nigeria and join politics, I protested at first but he convinced me, being a supportive wife, as always I supported and prayed for him. He left for Nigeria and joined politics, fortunately his party won and soon afterwards he was rewarded for his support and hard work with a political appointment. The money started flowing in and we were happy. However the happiness was short lived, with the money also came pain. My husband started coming to see us less frequently, claiming he was busy al the time. This prompted me to return to Nigeria with the kids hoping it was the distance that caused our problems. Coming back to Nigeria was the biggest mistake of my life. My once loving husband and father of my four wonderful children has been turned into a monster. He has become insensitive, flaunting his position and his women in front of me, he believes that money and his position can buy him anything he wants. We hardly see him and for the first time in 21 years my husband hits me at will. My first daughter intervened once, he slapped her, she ran away and is now back in the states. As I write this, I have concluded arrangements to return to America with the rest of the kids and then file for divorce there.  

I tried to encourage this poor woman, but deep inside I knew her marriage was over, another family has been thorn apart as a result of money and power, something which was supposed to be a good thing for the family has destroyed it completely. I concluded that you cannot claim to know a man/woman very well until he/she has tasted money or power or both. How can a man be so transformed in 9 months? This got me wondering and asking. 

Why do we let money come in between us and our families. Why do we suddenly start staying away from home the minute our pockets are lined with a few dollars. We make new friends, start staying out later than usual, we assume an autocratic stance and become incorrigible. Why does it seem like the woman/man at home is no longer good for us, we suddenly begin to find faults and complain about who she has always been. Why do we not use the money and position to upgrade and rebrand our spouse instead of replacing them.

Money and position have remained a damaging catalysts in most relationships/ marriage problems. A loving husband or wife suddenly becomes a monster when money, power or position is bestowed on them. What is it about money, power and position that turns us into impossible husbands and wives, what is it that makes us treat people around us with so much disdain, what is it that makes us believe we can no longer be approached, talked to or corrected when we are wrong.

Everything in life evolves, money, power, position, status, it can all change within a second. Power and position like every other thing in life is transient and should not be allowed to interfere in our relationship with friends, family and especially our spouse, they were there before your promotion and will be there after. What happens when the power or money is gone depends on how you have treated him/her when it was present. Money and position are supposed to be blessings to us and the family, they are supposed to create positive impacts on people around us. It is important we keep in mind that money and position does not mean happiness, it cannot buy good health, it cannot guarantee life and most importantly with or without money and power, the ultimate end remains six feet under and after that comes judgement. How well will you fare? – Sir Stanley Ekezie 


  1. Many Still don’t get it..That you can loose all your billions in just one day in a twinkle of an eye..Never be too Proud when you feel you have arrived…but rather let your wealth truly reflect on your family,people and lives around you,And then you are Truly Rich and Powerful indeed.


  2. I agree with you sir ,I also want to add that I have also seen where couples who lived well and happly in affulsnce became enemies just because the money disappear.the woman automatically is branded a witch .she is accusrd of destroying her husband .in most cases the woman did not even know the mans bank name .and I ask why do men especially live there family once there is a change in their financial status positively or negetively


  3. Stan the man is living out his hidden self or should I say he came out of the castle of his skin.


  4. It is unfortunate situation but this is what goes on in most families today. The truth is that some men do not have regard for their wife and children. Power, position,wealth ,poverty or change of status do not change people rather it brings out the real personality of an individual. Sadly, its common with our men. Its the effect of moral decadence in our society and absolute disregard for the word of God. Devil has invaded in the institution of marriage hence the centre could no longer hold and things are falling apart. May God protect our families from such sad story in Jesus Name. Amen.


  5. My perception is that not all men can handle wealth and fame. Her husband happen to fall within the category of Nigeria men who become exuberantly “sick” when exposed to money and fame. Suffice it to say her husband always had the propensity to act like that but really never had the opportunity. My advice, if she can’t talk sense into her gigolo husband get a good piece of the pie enough to take care of her and her kids and dump the man and move on. Life is too short to dwell in unnecessary rancourous acrimonious relationship.


  6. Well spoken and articulated. To me I always advise that before you give some one money, teach him or her wisdom and prudence else the money will be the architect of his or her doom


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