Crimes of passion

The alarming rate at which individuals are harmed, maimed, or killed in the name of relationships or marriages is deeply concerning. The brutalization and murder of women and men by their husbands, wives, partners, or ex-partners is particularly disturbing and escalating. Many people with serious mental health issues who should be on medication or confined to psychiatric hospitals are roaming free and are in marriages or relationships. If you notice any type of unhealthy, obsessive behavior by a partner, report it to your family and law enforcement agencies. If possible, move far away from the person.

The narrative surrounding these incidents is often remarkably similar. Either a woman who has been cheated on, betrayed, and abandoned by a man who promised her everything snaps and goes into a murderous rage, or a man who has invested heavily in a woman and is unable to come to terms with letting go. When the woman decides she has had enough or outgrows the man, he is pushed over the edge into a melancholic breakdown. In that frenzy of emotions, he makes all the wrong and devilish choices. When these scenarios play out, a life is taken, and the culprit is now destined for the gallows or prison forever, effectively ending two promising lives.

Men have failed to understand that a woman’s love cannot be bought. Money can only rent her attention, physical presence, and body. Without proper emotional connection, the man soon becomes a burden, a dispensable appendage that can be discarded when a better option inevitably becomes available. Similarly, a woman’s beauty is not enough to keep a man. It may get his attention temporarily, but he will eventually become fixated on someone new, someone sexier, and someone more beautiful. When true and sincere connections are not formed, it will only be a matter of time before hate, regret, and bitterness replace the greed, lust, and pretense that fueled the relationship.

This generation has sacrificed genuine emotional connections on the altars of greed, lust, and convenience. In consideration of material gain or carnal lust, people ignore reflags, fail to do proper checks and willingly walk into danger and sometimes to their death. Women now accept men they do not truly care for, solely because they provide comfort and financial support. Men, on the other hand, prioritize physical attributes, carnal gratification, and bragging rights as their primary reasons for being with a woman. These connections are exceedingly superficial, and the pretense required to maintain them cannot be sustained over a long period. The relationships will eventually deteriorate rapidly from tolerance and pretense to outright hostility, enabling the brutal hate crimes we have witnessed recently.

Women must be very careful and cautious when accepting favors from men. Deceiving a man into investing emotionally and financially in you, with the promise of marriage, when you have no intention of following through, is very dangerous. Always make your intentions clear and do not let him make huge sacrifices for you if they are based solely on a promise of marriage. While many men may lick their emotional wounds, count their losses, and move on, others may not. Some men are the devil’s incarnate, pure evil personified and they are roaming free, sometimes handsome, attractive, rich, and looking for who to destroy and devour. Do not put your life in danger by crossing them. No material gain or possession is worth risking your life.

My advice to men is simple: do not spend money on a woman to buy her love and affection. These come naturally and cannot be purchased. The best you can get is her presence, her body, and pretense. Do not spend what you cannot let go of if the relationship is broken. Always ensure that the plans you have for her align with hers for you. Make your intentions clear. If your reason for spending money on her is marriage, tell her to be sure she shares your dreams and plans for the future. Women are as mean as men, if not meaner. Do not promise to marry any woman you have no intention of marrying. If you have reached an agreement with a woman, please keep your part of the bargain. Karma does not recognize age or gender, and a woman’s revenge is usually certain, patient and very brutal. – Sir Stanley Ekezie