The hypocrisy of divorce and the pursuit of happiness

Towards the end of every marriage or relationship, the complaints are usually the same: lack of love, affection, respect, infidelity, physical abuse, and financial issues. In their attempt to escape these problems, couples will often leave their marriages in pursuit of peace, emotional stability, and happiness. The irony of some of these decisions is that many individuals will leave the comfort of their matrimonial homes only to return to the same problems they initially sought to escape, now accepting them without complaint. They will exhibit unusual patience, tolerance, and sacrifice – qualities that could have saved their marriage or relationship – in pursuit of meaningless, temporary relationships.

Some women who leave their husbands due to infidelity, disrespect, and disregard will often end up in hotels and guest houses, engaging in illicit affairs with other women’s husbands, tolerating the same unbearable disrespect and disregard they left their marriages for. They will show the reverence and respect they denied their husbands for these men just to hang on for physical, financial and emotinal support. Sometimes, they fall prey to young gigolos and studs, lavishing them with money, love, and affection in an attempt to keep them, and extending the same submission and respect that led them to leave their matrimonial homes to these young and undeserving lads.

Similarly, men will spend the same money and show affection that they denied their wives on serial meaningless infidelity with other people’s wives, who will inevitably leave them hanging and return to their husbands. They will expend huge sums of money and energy in fruitless pursuit of love and affection they once received freely at home. They will become vulnerable to young women who will exploit them, turning them into personal ATM machines while ridiculing them and engaging in relationships with their peers behind their backs. Some will succumb to infatuation and lust, groveling at the feet of these young women, who will manipulate and entangle them in a web of deceit, extortion, and emotional abuse.

If your life is not in danger due to physical abuse, extreme emotional abuse or deliberate acts of wickedness designed to pull you down or frustrate your progress, please reconsider your decision to leave your marriage. There is a high probability you will find happiness again, but there is also a high probability you won’t. Instead of investing sacrifice, tolerance, humility, respect, love, and submission into a new uncertain relationship, consider doing so to sustain your current one. Life is short, and nothing is guaranteed except what you already have, so cherish it – Sir Stanley Ekezie