What God has joined together

I always wonder what would have been the situation in marriages if they were contracted and sealed by native doctors before their shrines instead of in churches. I am very certain that there would have been no cheating, no physical abuse, no disrespect and certainly no divorce. Couples would have managed to stay together for fear of the consequences of going against Amadioha.

Do we have any love, respect or fear of God in us? Can a man who swears to love and cherish his wife before a shrine dare to lay his hands on her? Can he cheat on her? Can he verbally abuse her? and can a woman who vows before the same shrine ever disrespect her husband or cheat on him? The answer to these questions and very obvious, it’s a CAPITAL NO.

Why then is it so easy for us to turn on each other at the slightest provocation after the vows we exchange before God, our friends and family? Why is it so easy to abuse the same woman you promised to protect, love and cherish, why dishonor and disrespect a man you vowed to respect. Are we taking God’s mercy for granted, are we certain that there are no consequences for this disregard for God? All of us are guilty of this including some Pastors who superintend over these marriage ceremonies. They abuse their spouse in private and come to church to clap on Sundays. Bear in mind that when a marriage ends, especially a pastors marriage, it is a win for the devil and a loss for God.

Anytime a man raises his hands and hits a woman, God cringes and cries in heaven, blessings and good things destined for you are either delayed or diverted. When a woman spews disrespect on her husband, her prayers do no reach God. Some of us live in these sins from Monday to Saturday and then go to church on Sundays to do what exactly? To mock God? It’s like saying God I can disobey you by verbally and physically abusing my wife, or disregarding and disrespecting my husband and come to your house and there is nothing you can do about it.

I have always strongly believed that there are a lot more cases of divorce these days because many of us take our marriage vows for granted, we do not understand the consequences of standing before God and making those pronouncements. No one is above mistakes, we live in mistakes everyday, and as promised we are the beneficiaries of God’s mercy. We sin a thousand times and he loves us and forgives us a thousand times and never leaves us, that is the concept that should be adopted in marriage. Stick together and make it work.

Whenever I am having issues with my wife and I remember that sacred pronouncement by the priest “WHAT GOD HAS JOINED TOGETHER LET NO ONE PUT ASUNDER” I immediately stop and retrace my steps, I believe that whoever that is responsible for the end of a marriage has a case to answer before God and it will not be me. He is a just God and will not put a woman in your home to be beaten to death or a man to be frustrated to death, they have a right to leave for their own safety and it is on you.

If you beat and abuse your wife out of her home, it is between you and God. If you dishonor and disrespect your husband to the point where he is forced to leave, it is your burden to bear. Do not be the reason a marriage ends, WHAT GOD HAS JOINED TOGETHER, LET NO MAN PUT ASUNDER – Sir Stanley Ekezie