Deception by romance

A man and his wife went to the zoo, they observed a monkey and his female mate cuddling, she said to her husband, this is how it should be, he must love her very much. In the next cage they observed a lion and a lioness separated from each other, the silent lion sat alone in his corner as if the lioness doesn’t exist. The woman sneered and said how sad and unromantic.

The husband asked her to throw a stone at the female monkey, she did and the male monkey jumped up and climbed a tree to save his own skin completely abandoning the female. She was shocked. Then he told her to repeat the same with the lioness. Once she did the lion sprung forward roaring ferociously in defense of the lioness circling to ensure that what ever object is that being hauled at her hits him instead. He was ready to take the bullet for her.

A lot of men and women have been deceived into marriages and relationships simply because “awww he/she is so romantic. Do not be deceived with what you see as romance and outward show of love and affection, sometimes it is a deceptive appearance just to hide an empty and loveless heart. There are others on the contrary who are relaxed and may not be outwardly romantic, but their hearts are filled with sincere love. Presently we have many in the monkey shadow and few lions these days, always follow your heart and don’t be deceived with romance.

The fact that a person is not outwardly romantic does not diminish the love they have in their hearts or their readiness to defend you when it matters. Some people internalize everything including their feelings but have nothing but pure love for their spouse. Others are more eager to impress their spouse everyone around them with romantic gestures but will vanish when they are needed the most. The most important thing is how a person responds when you are in need, when you are vulnerable and when you need protection.

Comparing your situations with someone else’s can be very dangerous especially if you don’t know the whole story, you may be in a much better situation than the outward appearance of someone else’s life. You may actually be wishing yourself evil by wanting someone else’s marriage. Remember, all that glitters is not good and If you don’t know the story don’t envy the glory. All marriages and spouses are different and so is there situation, so concentrate on building yours – Sir Stanley Ekezie